Buying a Business to Balance Ambition and Kids

I read. If I'm allowed to invoke. Invoke that book anymore. I feel like it's controversial. But, but, but you kind of.

You.

It's. It's whatever you can build. And then while it's a lot of work, in many cases, in most cases even more work than having a, a salary job, more is flexible. So you may be working 12 hours a day, but they're the 12 hours that you choose.

So this was why, this was, this was why you saw it as the solution?

Yes, I absolutely. And you know, to be a good mother for me, I need to have multiple spaces of my life filled. Just to be a mother is not enough for me to be fully fulfilled and therefore does not allow me to be the best self for my kids. And I do think that they deserve my best self.

So I need other types of challenges. And my career has always been something that I've really enjoyed and it is. When I worked at this last company, I started my day at 6am and I was still working by 6pm and so I didn't have time with my kids in the morning, I was tired at night, went to sleep so late because they demanded time with me.

They didn't have all the rest of the day. And then I was exhausted and just wasn't fully there.

And you know, working at a corporate job comes with certain challenges that's like maybe politics, maybe some drama, some decisions that you may not be fully aligned with, but you, you know, I do believe in the disagree and commit that I learned at Amazon, but all of those things, you know, they carry some weight mentally on you and take away from being with your kids. And so having a.

My own company for me had the flexibility aspect for sure that I could maybe work. And that's kind of what I do from four to six and then be with my kids and then go again at nine when they are in preschool or daycare and then leave at 3 and then be with them and then work maybe at night and just do the things differently.

And as well as being like, okay, if I have to take the day off, I will take the day off and it's okay because I get to dictate that. So that was very attractive to me. But also on the sense that the mental load is very different when it's your own.

I don't want to say it's not stressful. It is hyper stressful to have your own business, but you have control over the stresses that you allow yourself to have and you get to solve them. So if you have too much on your plate, you get to hire someone.